Thank
You for Changing My Life
I met Frankie the day I walked into his sixth-grade classroom as
a fledgling student teacher full of fear
and trepidation. I had just
spent two years assisting at a day care
center and had decided to
go to teacher's college to become a kindergarten
teacher. What
was I doing in a sixth-grade classroom?
Frankie wasn't hard to miss. He was sitting at the back of the
class, leaning back on his chair with
his feet up on the desk.
A miniature Fonz, Frankie's clothes were
spattered with dried mud
- not an easy feat in this frozen Canadian
town of Winnipeg, where
none of us had seen mud for months, only
four feet of ice and snow.
His hair hadn't seen a comb in a long
time and his eyes glared,
"Just try and teach me!"
The regular classroom teacher was wrapped up in trying to complete
his master's thesis, so the students were
given individual contracts
at the beginning of each week and then
sent to the library or
wherever else they could keep out of trouble
to do "individual
research."
The teacher decided to give me the one group his conscience hadn't let
him contract out - the bottom math group - all boys, all
restless and all as motivated to learn
about math as I was to learn
about hang gliding. Frankie was included.
The teacher explained
that Frankie's only obligation was to
show up every day. If he came,
he got full credit, even if he only just
sat there with his feet up.
Racking my brains for a math unit that could capture the attention
of these nine rowdy boys, I was inspired
to base the unit on fractions
and taught it using recipes. We made everything
from chocolate chip
cookies to my one and only loaf of home-baked
bread.
At first, Frankie hung out at the back of the group totally uninterested.
Then I promised the boys a trip to McDonald's
for lunch for anyone who
completed the unit. Frankie said that
I couldn't do that. I said I could
and would.
Each day, Frankie became more and more involved. As the second week of
my adventure with these boys began, a miracle happened. Frankie showed
up, all scrubbed up and in clean clothes. By the end of the third week,
all nine boys - including Frankie had completed the whole unit, and I
realized I had to make good on the McDonald's
promise. Those boys had
worked hard!
What a blow it was when I learned the school administration would not allow
a student teacher to take students off school property. Frankie
was right - I couldn't do it. An even
greater blow came as the classroom
teacher handed me the most derogatory
evaluation I would receive during
that whole year of classroom teaching
experiences.
Depressed and defeated, I apologized profusely to the boys, thanked them
for all their hard work and packed up my materials. That last
afternoon in their classroom was also
Valentine's Dance for the entire
sixth grade. It was a true classic in
the genre - all the boys stood
on one side of the gym and all the girls
stood on the other.
A handful of girls were dancing together at the girls' end and that
was it. Another student teacher victim
and I sat up on the bleachers,
savoring our last look at middle school
before finishing the year back
at our elementary school haven. Suddenly
the ear-splitting rock-and-
roll ended and a beautiful waltz filled
the gym.
Frankie separated himself from the wall of boys, climbed the bleachers
and asked if I would dance with him. All alone in the middle of the
dance floor, with every eye glued on us,
Frankie and I waltzed in
silence. As the last notes faded away,
he stopped dancing, looked me
right in the eyes and said,
"Thank you for changing my life."
It was not the magic of recipes and fractions. It was not the promise
of a Big Mac. The only thing I figured
had wrought the miracle was
that someone cared. If I had changed Frankie's
life, so had he changed
mine. I had learned the power of love,
kindness and respect in a
classroom.
This kindergarten-bound student teacher switched her major to special education
and
spent many a rewarding year teaching in classrooms in Canada and the United
States searching out every Frankie I could find.
Thank YOU, Frankie, for changing MY life!
~ by Randy Loyd Mills ~
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